In the nearly four years marriage equality (that is to say gay marriage) has been law in New Hampshire, 70.4 percent of the same sex marriages performed here have been between two lesbians.
Since the first gay marriage on January 1, 2010, 2278 lesbian couples have tied to knot and "only" 959 gay male couples.
Those numbers are a bit misleading because numbers in the first two years were skewed by the automatic conversion of couples who had been granted civil unions in 2008 and 2009, 412 in 20ll and another 373 in 2011.
Here are the year by year numbers.
2010--707 female marriages, 280 male (including the conversions)
2011--631 female marriages, 219 male (including the conversions)
2012--278 female marriages, 111 male
2013--351 female marriages, 215 male
2014 so far--311 female marriages, 134 male
Ah yes, but what about divorces?
I know that's what you're wondering, and rightly so.
So far, 200 lesbian and gay male couples have been divorced, 156 females (78 percent) and "only" 44 males (22 percent). Obviously, we should expect to see an increase in divorces as time passes and more and more gays and lesbians are in the married pool. For example, only two male couples and 14 female couples divorced in 2011. In the following four years, the numbers were 14, 42, 56, and 44 for females; 16, 14, and 12 for males.
Thus in the limited data we have so far, we can say that lesbians are more likely than gay men to marry but they are also more likely to divorce.
I've saved the most interesting data for last. What percent of the overall marriages in the state have been with same sex rather than heterosexual couples? Actually the number of heterosexual marriages is fairly stable, 8665 for 2010; 8529 for 2011; 8632 for 2012; 8570 for 2013; and 8354 for 2014 so far.
Let's just use the past three years (since the conversions skew the same sex numbers for 2010 and 2011).
In those three years, we've had 25,558 heterosexual and 1400 homosexual marriages in New Hampshire for a total of 26,958.
Do a little more math, and you should agree with my number that 5.2 percent of all marriages in the state in the last three years have been less than straight (sorry, I couldn't avoid the pun).
That number is actually is higher than I would have imagined. Some social scientists like to say that gay people are one in ten or ten percent of the population; others insist the number is closer to one in a hundred; I've always use a number in between; let's say five percent. My guess is that with marriage equality such a new thing, the percentage would have been slightly lower.
If anyone has any data from other states (Vermont has been at this slightly longer than we have), feel free to drop it in here.
As I argued on the House floor when we manage to stun the world by becoming only the second legislature in the country to pass marriage equality, it really isn't about numbers. As long as one couple is denied the right to consummate their love with the right to get married, we fail to live up to basic principles of equality.
Add 3236 to that one, and that's where we are in New Hampshire--up to 3237 and counting.